tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post1912302254786088143..comments2023-10-01T05:00:34.318-04:00Comments on The Negative Split: What Matters: I Think I Still Don't Get ItNathttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08250132017455417022noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-63461971752478211192008-10-16T15:36:00.000-04:002008-10-16T15:36:00.000-04:00God, that is just . . . like you, i feel ill even ...God, that is just . . . like you, i feel ill even contemplating the loss of a child. This came at an interesting time, too. I have been reading this book about Centenarians, and one of them said something that rang so true for me, much like the quote from Secret Life of Bees.<BR/><BR/>This woman said that she realized that in life, she wasted a lot of time trying to be smart or be right, and what really mattered was what you did to make other people happy. <BR/><BR/>And you put yourself and Carmella in that family's life, and while it can't bring their child or sister back, it added up to help them get through one day. That is something.Dogwood Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07501697477604631512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-2938706009247090412008-10-12T11:57:00.000-04:002008-10-12T11:57:00.000-04:00I am not sure how anyone even begins to breathe ag...I am not sure how anyone even begins to breathe again after experiencing that loss. It is simply too much. I incessantly complain about "the hassle" of the barrage of children's parties to which the girls are invited (and everything else I don't want to do). I needed the reminder of practicing graciousness rather than focusing so often on what I deem an inconvenience. Great post Nat! -TracyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-25120118706292470832008-10-12T08:23:00.000-04:002008-10-12T08:23:00.000-04:00That's a beautiful story of how we should behave e...That's a beautiful story of how we should behave every day. And of course you would go I never had a doubt.Kristin Konghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07108280147017431909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-18256052190340041372008-10-12T08:05:00.000-04:002008-10-12T08:05:00.000-04:00Thanks for putting things in perspective... I coul...Thanks for putting things in perspective... I could see myself doing the same thing as I was reading this, I only hope I would have done the right thing as you did. I feel for this family and sometimes can't believe how blessed I am and take it for granted. I admire their strength and hurt for their pain. I loved the quote... see if you can get a 2 for 1 on the tattoo... I'll go with you... :)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00355171909250890249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-59984294612660081232008-10-11T17:33:00.000-04:002008-10-11T17:33:00.000-04:00I agree with Colleen. Hope the party was fun and ...I agree with Colleen. Hope the party was fun and that the little boy had a great time.StephBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04643823696166648490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-35028469484800173412008-10-11T12:41:00.000-04:002008-10-11T12:41:00.000-04:00I think you give yourself far too little credit......I think you give yourself far too little credit...this post alone shows what a kind-hearted and sensitive person you are. You are a great person!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21601772.post-32936785926784241532008-10-11T10:23:00.000-04:002008-10-11T10:23:00.000-04:00You know guys aren't supposed to tear up, but this...You know guys aren't supposed to tear up, but this post and the one about Evan made me. <BR/><BR/>I think the one statement you made really sums it up though. His family doesn't really care if you RSVP. They just want the best possible party for their little boy.<BR/><BR/>I hope you do call, I hope you and Carmella go to the party and I hope you have a wonderful time.<BR/><BR/>I know me, in a situation like that I'd probably go buy the kid a toy and spend way more money than I normally would for a kid I hardly know. And Vic would give me a hard time about it, but that's just me. I'm a softy I guess. <BR/><BR/>I was visiting my Father in St. Josephs Hospital several years ago. The Nuns were trying to get new beanie babies for all the kids in the childrens ward for some special event. Not sure what it was, but it was very important to them and they were very short on donations. Money wasn't tight then, so I bought every kid in the place one. I was pretty anxious and worried about my Dad, but doing that for those kids sure made me feel good that day.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there and be your positive, happy self at the party. I will say a special prayer for the family today, and for yours as well.JoeVichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01430197381603549525noreply@blogger.com